Addiction to Insight
One of the most delightful aspects of mindfulness meditation are the insights that appear when we learn the art of quietude. We may notice a physical sensation, a response, a thought, or an emotion and our simple recognition gives way to an insight into some aspect of our life. We may notice a pattern of thoughts or behaviors, or even have the experience of having the answer to a question we were pondering suddenly be very clear to us.
These “AHA” moments are marvelous. We feel so ‘with it’ when they arrive! We suddenly understand something that had been a puzzle to us, perhaps perplexing us for days, months, or even years. It is like the first clean, clear breath of country air that we have had in years and it tastes just as sweet. We ride on the associated glow for days…and we find ourselves craving more.
Yet, our very craving can prevent the arrival of these insights. We sit for our meditation time with heightened expectations of a glorious ‘find’, a moment of clarity, a suggestion of our deepest psyche, a perceptive view into our relationships, and nothing happens expect ‘being’. We notice our breath, the feel of the cushion beneath us, the sounds around us and we wait for more. When ‘more’ is not forthcoming, our thoughts race in and out telling us we are not doing it ‘right’, we are not in a deep enough contemplative state, we have neglected devoting sufficient time on a regular basis, or somehow we have lost our ‘touch’. None of which is true.
What has happened is that our ego had invaded our space, and instead of letting ourselves be and accepting what is, we are trying to force ourselves to have insight. It is like trying to force creativity or better yet, to force a cool breeze to gently blow across our face on a hot summer day - which simply cannot happen at will.
What has happened is that we have returned to seeking pleasure and avoiding the mundane, returned to judging and to self-critique. We have returned to striving, pushing and pulling on our world to make it into what we want. We have ceased to let ourselves ‘be’.
At these times, we need simply remember that ‘being’ is enough, to breathe, to feel, to watch, to notice, and to be curious. All is well. We are okay. Life is good. Being and being with ourselves is expansion enough.
We don’t have to flower each and every day.
We can be what and who we are.
Flourishing in our own garden.